Even if you love what you do, where you live, your kids, your partner, your neighborhood, your dog, your favorite coffee place...you get the point...life itself, which includes other people, weather, lost homework, traffic jams, flat tires...you get the point...happens!
The secret to bouncing back from a bad moment or day is learning how to move through it. How you respond can mean the difference between a quick recovery or going into a spiral of mental exhaustion which can lead to a good ole funk.
Here are four steps to help you get back on track:
1. Breath Check Up. Step into the moment and feel the rage, anxiety, stress, whatever it is you are feeling and stand or sit in it for three breaths. Breath in and out through you nose really deeply. What does your breath feel like on the first one, probably shallow and short. Now take a second breath, make it even longer on the exhale. Feel you body relax. Now take that third breath...and I can't believe I'm saying this..but go to your special place, a moment of peace in your life. When you were in a place or with people and everything was in the flow, moving almost in slow motion. Time didn't matter. You were exactly where you should be and you felt it.
2. You are Not Your Feelings. Think Kindergarten. You are not your feelings. You are not stupid, that was just a silly thing to do. You are not an idiot, you just have to learn how to better manage your time by saying no to things and asking for help...even at home. Feel it, but don't define yourself by it. Breath and let it pass through you and learn how you can do things differently the next time to avoid this kind of situation.
3. Find a Buddy. Sorry, but again, think Kindergarten. What do kids do everywhere they go? They hold hands with a buddy so they don't get lost. These are Zen lessons my friend! Find someone you can vent too and set a timer for yourself so you don't go down the rabbit hole! Allow yourself to connect with your buddy and share your frustration for 5 minutes then listen to any advice they have...even tough love... and then let it go.
4. Give Yourself Some Self-Care. Now be careful! Self care can easily become self-sabotage if more than one glass of wine or a shopping spree or binge watching the entire series of Big Little Lies in one night (guilty!) is involved and the next day ends up feeling worse than this one! Self-care means take time to care for your mental health and physical health. Listen to one of my Just Breathe with Eileen Fein podcasts, and give yourself the gift of time.
These 4 things can add up to mindful living! Yet, they require taking action to flip that feeling of funk to one of relaxation. So try one or all four to get yourself back on track!