Saying no can be really difficult for those who are active or recovering people-pleasers. It brings up all sorts of fears.
People will dislike me and talk about me
They’ll think I THINK I’m better than them
If I’m not willing to help other people, am I being selfish?
But like most other things in life, saying no is critical to protecting your time and energy for yourself and the people and causes you love. It's also a skill set that requires practice.
Here are 4 ways to say no gracefully, so that you can have strong boundaries without alienating people or feel like a "bad person."
1. Thank them for thinking of you but say no without apologizing or explaining, then...
2. Say what you CAN do for them...
3. Delegate!...put them in touch with other resources, maybe another person going through the same experience or having the same scheduling issue that could help.
4. Close the circle...tell them to let you know how it goes to sustain the relationship.
These are great steps for saying no to people that are just asking for help but we all know that some people are just plain takers. To help deal with that listen to my Just Breathe with Eileen Fein podcast, "How to Let Go of People" because it may be time to move on from those people.
Let me know how it goes! DM me on my Breathe with Eileen Fein Facebook page or tag me @eileenfein on your Instagram account!